Noe – After moving to California I decided to start golfing, mainly to form connections. I did everything right: I dressed the part, respected the game and adhered to the prescribed golf etiquette most courses require.
Yet, there was always this tension in the air whenever I stepped foot onto a course. Everything I did was right, but me being there just felt wrong. It wasn’t that golf was the wrong sport for me, it was that I didn’t fit who people believed a “traditional” golfer was. I was making connections on the golf course, and yet, I didn’t feel a sense of belonging.
Melvin - I barely made it six holes the first time I went golfing in high school. Where was the music? The cheering? Why couldn’t I wear something more comfortable? Why do I feel so out of place? It wasn’t something I ever wanted to do again. And for a long time, I didn’t.
When I moved to San Diego to play professional football for the Los Angeles Chargers I didn’t know many people there. But one person did reach out – Noe Vital – who was friends with a group of us football players in college. We started hanging out more and always made a point to connect with the rest of the guys too. None of our crew was interested in golf, except Noe.